Fast Wednesdays, April 9, 2014 – You Have a Right to be Mad…NOT!

Greetings Beloved!

Colossians 3:13

SCRIPTURE: Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.Colossians 3:13 (NIV)

Is there ever a time for anger? 

This quarter our Women’s Ministry studied from a book called “Stuck” by Jennie Allen. Her subtitle is “the places we get stuck & the God who sets us free.” The topics were: Broken, Mad, Discontent, Scared, Overwhelmed and Sad. At the end of the series, each group did a presentation on one of the topics. My group’s word was Mad. Our team was very creative and had a great skit presentation. Setting: Two of the ladies are “friends” and they are suppose to meet for dinner. Well one shows up and the other one does not. So, when they see each other the next time, the question is will they reconcile or will they be mad and remain that way. Well, this was church and it was a skit, so of course, they reconciled. But how many times in “real life” do we not reconcile and stay MAD?

While we are on the topic of being mad and anger…how many times I have heard:

1) “I don’t believe that person is really sorry” and

2) “Saying ‘I forgive you’ won’t take away the pain”

Well, if a person has offered you an apology, its definitely time to move on. Sometimes you may never get the apology! So, for sure, you may never receive a genuine apology from the offender, but what do you gain by allowing your wound to fester?

Why is whether or not a person is genuinely sorry for hurting you relevant to the issue of forgiveness?

Why is it significant that forgiveness is a process (not a one time fix in many cases)?

“God doesn’t tell us never to get angry. God’s call is that we be slow to anger because He knows we are so easily offended. And in doing this we live like God: “The Lord, a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness. (Exodus 34:6)

Finally, if Christ, laying down his rights (to be angry), justified so few reasons on this planet to respond with anger, how many can we justify?”

Again, Is there ever a time for anger? Yes, but let’s pick our fights wisely, life is too short! 


Just and holy God, you know that we human beings don’t always treat one another kindly, respectfully, or justly, and that truth makes it tough for me to want to forgive people who have hurt me. May my fear of being hurt be overshadowed by the truth that you’ll be with me even if I am hurt again. Help me, Lord, to do what is right even though it’s hard.


Love, Joy and Peace, 

Debra J. Ellis

Reminder AND/OR for those of you just joining us: The purpose of Fast Wednesdays is to draw near to God on this specific day of the week fasting and praying in whatever manner the Holy Spirit is leading you as sisters (and some brothers) in Christ…some have fasted from social media, coffee, or observed a traditional fast with no eating from sunrise to sunset with only liquids for the day, no deserts, etc. I know many of us, for various reasons, participate every week but in different manners. This has still been beneficial and the blog continues to grow!

The key ingredient is that we are doing this together as sisters, of all ages, in the Lord, both chronologically and spiritually in accordance to: A God-Filled Life Titus 2:3-5 “Guide older women into lives of reverence so they end up as neither gossips nor drunks, but models of goodness. By looking at them, the younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives. We don’t want anyone looking down on God’s Message because of their behavior.”  Note: Please share Fast Wednesdays with your friends and/or send me names to add to the distribution list. For now, I will post in three places: email (, Facebook (Debra Fuller Ellis) and blog in Word Press:

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One Response to Fast Wednesdays, April 9, 2014 – You Have a Right to be Mad…NOT!

  1. Jacqui McGugins says:

    Here’s my (long-winded) question comment. What do you do and how long will it take – if there is a situation and you were truly wronged and that person never apologized? Now they’ve passed and you’ll never get the apology. You are finally at the point where you can forgive – because not doing so will only close you off to your future peace. But even though you’re sincere, you still can’t FORGET the wrong. Does that make you a bad person o just human? Staying mad will only hurt you in the end but the sadness is always there. ==============================

    Peace, Jacqui

    Date: Wed, 9 Apr 2014 13:56:25 +0000 To:

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